Every anger management book teaches you several things that would be helpful in managing your anger as well as handling it well. On this article, we would focus on one aspect that is given to people who are trying to learn how to manage their anger with the help of anger management books. That is, knowing signs of anger.
Identifying the signs of anger gives you a lot of advantages. One is an open consciousness that you are getting angry. Two is, knowing when to control your anger once you have identified that it is getting into your system. Three is keeping you from feeling any regret once you were taken over by your anger… and many more.
Here are the signs:
Flushed face – Intense emotion brought by anger causes blood circulation to go above normal. The result is flushing of the face. This is a clear sign that you are on your way to hit your alarm. Control this by maintaining your cool. Do not get carried away by your emotion. Angry people tend to become strong. Use this strength to other more productive activities instead of becoming destructive.
Tension building up on the body – Anger causes muscles to tighten and become tensed. This sign usually happens to everyone so anger can be easily identified. Keep relaxed. Loose your muscles. Lower your shoulder and shake off your body. Keep your composure down by breathing slowly and deeply. Such activities will help you release tension and muscle tightening.
Clenched hands – The best manifestation that the tension is building up on the body is through your hands. It was mentioned that when a person gets angry, he usually experiences tightening of the muscles. And the very parts where you can see the evidence of this are your hands. Clenched hands are clear sign of anger. What you should do is loosen up and relax. Do not give the blow to your subject of anger. Instead, make sure that you take control of yourself.
Gritty teeth – Aside from the hands, you can notice that your jaws are tightening when you get angry. Since you can never solve anger with more anger, try to relax and little by little, try to extinguish the anger off yourself until you have released your anger without causing damage to yourself and to other people.
Higher voice tone – Angry people tend to increase the notch of their voice several levels up. And it happens with or without you knowing it. The contrary of this is silence. The two are meant to intimidate others and they could not be healthy to you and to the subject of your anger.
Of all these signs, there is one thing that is common: they are all controllable. It only depends how much your willingness to control it.
If you think you are really angry, try to control yourself and tell yourself to calm down. Inhale deeply and exhale fully. Breathing helps you to relax.
Remember what you have thought to the child? “If you are angry, try counting from one to ten.” Believe it or not, this technique actually works. But if you were not able to release it when you reach number ten, try counting more.
The point is, keeping yourself in control makes it possible to keep your anger away. Think of the consequence and make measurable decisions and actions.