The word commonly used for all people and by all people. Anger is a feeling you and that guy sitting next to you can experience.
Since anger is an emotional state of the mind, the expression depends from person to person. Some may feel irritated while some may feel rage and fury on one and the same thing. And the biological and physiological changes follow with every anger created.
Consequently, anger would lead to either constructive or destructive results. Sadly, most people would tend to loose control that would prevent them to see the former side. This calls for ways on how to manage anger effectively without hurting other people including yourself.
Manage your anger with these simple rules of the thumb:
Life is not pure pleasure. Many times in your life you experience things that would make you angry but you should never lose control. Life does not always go according to your plan. If things do not go according to plan, anger is not the solution. Anger would not solve the problem.
Doing something that would destroy you would keep you farther from your goal. Becoming angry is one of them. DO NOT waste your time grieving and blaming yourself or others from your mishaps. Instead, move on and continue to strive in doing something productive.
Creating a destructive outlet for your anger is not the solution. There are healthy ways on how to express your emotions – this includes anger. However, this doesn’t mean that you are free to do everything you want in expressing your emotions. The norms of society and the conscience governing men prohibit us from making destructive actions but if you let anger dominate you, everything may be ignored. Never let your emotions govern you. Take control of yourself and do something that is productive, non-violent, and acceptable.
Forgiving yourself will lead to better things to come. Being angry with one’s self, however, will never do any good to you or to anyone. This is because when you hate yourself for the failures you have done, the effects are not limited only to yourself but also to your outlook with other people; that would in turn, become evident on how you treat them.
So instead of hating, forgive yourself and move on. Learn from the experience and before you know it, you are on track again. But remember, failures would still come even if you forgive yourself the first time. What you should do is to continuously make adjustments with your life and not hate yourself with every failure you have made.
Your body has its limits. You know that certain things can easily make you angry. You also know that certain things can make your anger go away. Work your way by avoiding those that can easily make you angry. In the same manner, use the activities that can calm you down if you think you are creating a destructive anger.
Anger itself is indifferent. This means that anger can either be good or bad. It just depends on how people handle it. Making sure that you are in control of your emotions is the best thing to do if you are going out of line. Anger would become an advantage if you know how to handle it well, rather than getting carried away with it.