Expressing your emotion is healthy. However, expressing it in an uncontrollable manner could be dangerous. Here are some anger management techniques you can do to make sure anger will not control you:
Acceptance and recognition of the problem – For some, accepting and recognizing that they have anger management issues are hard. This is probably because they are scared to receive negative feedbacks from other people or they are too angry that they do not seem to realize that they are indeed angry. Either way, it is very important to initially accept and recognize that you are struggling with anger management so that you will realize what are the things that should be done and what are the ways to prevent the possible effects.
Identifying the root of your anger – After you have accepted and recognized that you have anger management issues, the next very important thing to do that is to identify the root of your anger. This would help you focus on specific solutions that would directly hit your problem. Knowing the root of your anger would also let you know how to stay away from things that would trigger your anger.
Letting go – Many people with anger management issues tend to bring back previous things and events that caused them pain and anger. This is dangerous since pain and suffering from the past could easily trigger anger even from the simplest things. Make sure you let go, forgive, and then forget the things and the people who have hurt you before.
Avoid solving the problem, instead, handle it well – “In every problem, there is always a solution.” This is the saying that keeps people optimistic at the same time causes people to become frustrated on the things that have happened to them; because you can never solve every single problem that comes your way. There are things that is out of your control; so instead of focusing on the solving the problem, try to realize what are the proper ways on how to handle the problem well. This would liberate you from the effects of frustration, including anger.
Diversion – Anger could cause you and other people around you harm. Again, it is okay to express anger but once the expression goes beyond your control, anger becomes bad. What you should do is to divert your anger into more productive activities. Take note that an angry person tends to become stronger as he normally is. Doing something harmless and acceptable is the best way to utilize strength.
Communicate well – When you are angry, the tendency is for you to lose yourself. Once it happens, you might not be conscious of every word or every action that come out from you. Practice on how to communicate well. Keep yourself in control of your situation. Communicating well will lead understanding what is really happening. Communicating well would also give allow you to listen to others as well as thinking well, and asserting yourself well on different scenarios where other people lose it.
Take it easy – This does not mean that you laugh off your anger, just keep it easy. Try to relax your whole body. Controlling your anger is a matter of choice. In other words, you are the sole responsible if you want to get angry or not. Take it easy. It is much better to think about the consequences from the possible actions you want to commit while succumbing to your anger than thinking of the realizing that you have done wrong after you have calmed down.