Everyone feels anger, which makes it a common emotion among men. But the level or anger may not be the same from person to person. Some would feel angrier than others on the same situation. Some may have different ways on how to handle their anger either. Some would resort into more constructive ways on how to release it. But when anger tends to become destructive and frequent that you could inflict immediate danger to yourself as well as others, then, it might be the right time to seek help.
Of course you need to identify if you are really going out of the line when you feel anger and you also need to asses how well did you fair on other self-help techniques you have done over and over again.
Seeking help, then, would be a good option if every self-help fails and you can no longer see yourself as an effective person to handle your anger.
If you are not sure about how well you can handle your anger, try to reassess yourself with the following signs:
You easily lose your self-control at any given situation.
You get frustrated and angry waiting in line.
You get to hate yourself if something did not go according to your expectations or you have failed to take control of your own situation.
You find it difficult to absolve other people who have caused you pain.
You give so much of your time trying to nourish the anger inside you and trying to think of the people who have caused you this anger for the day.
You get angry when you see that people cannot do things right, incompetent, too clumsy, or subject to frequent errors and mistakes.
You call other people ‘stupid’ or ‘dumb’ when they cannot do things right, incompetent, too clumsy, or subject to frequent errors and mistakes.
You often engage into severe arguments with other people including your friends, family, and loved ones.
You still think of the past experiences and people that have given you anger up to now.
You always get frustrated.
You take drugs or alcohol every time you get angry.
You notice that people stay away from you or get intimidated with your emotion every time you get angry.
You experience weakness, stomachache or headaches when you get upset, mad or frustrated.
You hurt other people physically with objects around you when you get angry.
You give offensive words to people you are angry with.
You feel like getting even to the people who have caused you anger.
People at your office stay away from you.
Your family members and friends suggest that you have an anger management issue.
Are your family, social life and other aspects of your life negatively affected due to your rage?
You have considered killing somebody when you get angry.
You have considered killing yourself when you are angry.
If you are experiencing most of these situations, then it is time for you to seek people who can help you. Remember that anger happens to everyone but when it gets out of control, it must be taken seriously and be given enough attention so as you avoid hurting yourself or others.
If you answer, “yes” to most of these questions, then it is time to seek professional help. Being angry is normal, but being too angry too frequently to the point that it is ruining your life is not at all normal.
One tip: Never be ashamed to admit that you have anger management issues. Acceptance would enable you to save yourself from further damage your emotion might inflict.