It has become a trend in self-help industry that to be able to succeed, one has to be aware of his or her emotions. They are justified yet why?
There is no exact answer to that but we might shed light to some of the undiscovered facts once we recognize that emotions truly help us experience life more. Once we are so immersed in a specific emotion, say happiness or fear, we tend to understand in part or in full the meaning of the experience or the depth of our emotions. We cannot have a generalization on this and each experience is as varied as the prints of our fingers. The realization, in most cases, just dawn depending on how one savored the experience.
Emotions set us apart from other people. They determine the way we act and give “reasons” as to why we act the way we do or why people behave in the manner they do. Emotions set our personal boundaries and in a sense, limit us from becoming ourselves in making us realize the exact people we want. Emotions help us communicate our feelings and our reactions towards things without having to say them orally. Thus, in the general picture, emotions affect the way we lead our lives, either to perdition or to success. But these of course are yet to be affected by other factors essential to living.
There are various divisions of emotional intelligence. These include self awareness, emotional sensitivity, emotion management, self motivation and the ability to handle relationships.
In order for anyone to improve his or her emotional intelligence, one must gather some understanding on these various areas. After all, the methods that you will use in improving your emotional intelligence will be cored between these five aspects.
The first thing you would want to do is to develop your self awareness. That way, you will be able to fully know the extent of your emotions and the meanings they bear. No one can help you here better than yourself since no one knows you better than you.
The perfect connection you can make to allow communication between you and your inner self is meditation. Relaxation and proper observance of yourself are the keys. Let your thoughts flow in the process and don’t make immediate judgements. Don’t even make analysis yet. After your meditation then comes the realization from all the questions that would crop up.
Once you have connected yourself with the self that resides in you who has the better understanding of the pool of emotions you are experiencing, it would now be time to take the responsibility over your own emotions. Better understanding leads to better judgement. One you understand yourself fully, then would only come the time for you to really determine the emotions you must accept and retain and the emotions you have for long, denied.
And on the juncture of knowing yourself, you will understand that your emotions are not the full embodiment of your being you. There is no such thing as bad emotions. Remember that every bit of emotion that you are experiencing is your reactions to specific stimulations. Do not make assumptions on how bad you are based on the wrong emotions that came out from you. The opposite is also true. Making self-judgments will never make you a better person.